HOW YAMMY GOT HER GROOVE BACK/ Make Your Life Better In these Times

Prior to and in the beginning of quarantine, i made written plans on how my days should go but trust my family to ceremoniously completely shatter my plans with spontaneous activities. With my plans shattered, i would also go in a state of discomfort and extreme annoyance ( my annoyed state is worse than my angered state). Unfortunately for me there is no escaping since i am literally stuck at home. Days following, i spent for time reading God's words, reading blogs & watching inspiring YT videos with a blend of these, i emerged with a new mindset, one that preempted and embraced these shatter in my plans. "Use these times to form stronger bonds with your family…" i practised this by taking time to understand what they might need at certain times, i would literally guess the day & time period my mother would suggest we should go somewhere and even if i plan an activity during that period i would keep in mind that it is prone to change- I offset my trigger. Triggers that weren't that serious in the grand scheme of things but they set me off. After that i went into a next phase of planning excessively, unrealistically, ending up not completing the tasks and then berating myself for not completing the tasks. I had moments of happiness and enjoyable moments but i would still beat myself up. The fact is i was being way too hard on myself, but i believe that identifying where you've gone wrong & reflecting on it is a part of selfcare. I did just that and i cannot say i have perfected the art of not beating myself up, but i have certainly improved. I found a new way to organise my mind: 1. Weekly Reset- I go over what went great or not so great in the past week. I set new goals or projects i want to get done in the new week and i set a date for it. This is prone to change but it familiarises my brain to the work load and keeps me focus(even if i don't get them all done).

2. Daily plan with allotted times- The night before, i'll write out activities i want to get done with corresponding time periods. I usually take 2 hours to do my morning routine and get ready. Spend 4-5 hours trying to do school work and then after i do any other activity i feel like doing. The daily planning makes me set realistic goals and acts as a guide through my days.

3. Setting feasible work period- If you want to get work done, do it during the time of day where you are most productive. For me I've noticed that during this quarantine, i work best in the mornings hence i try to do school work from morning until around 1pm. Doing this makes me work around my strengths and not get drained.

4. Planning in fun activities- When planning i jot down fun activities i want to engage in that day. This makes me push myself to get "work" done so i can engage in the fun activity that i will be sure to enjoy.

5. Accepting things as they come.

6. When doing an activity focus only on that activity during the time period. If, you're working on school work for let's say 2 hours, immerse yourself into that work for the 2 hours straight (with maybe a 10 min break after an hour). No checking social media, no wandering thoughts just focus on the work during that time period. When it's over do whatever you want without any guilt. Have fun to the fullest because you've worked to your fullest.

Truth is i am not in control of life but i can control my reaction to what life offers me. I have re tapped in that mindset and my days are more enjoyable.

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Never stop Curating your best life.

-Y.E.N